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Hello and welcome to the Athlete One podcast.
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I'm your host, ken Carpenter, and today we celebrate episode 100.
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What started out as an experiment on December 30th of 2020 is now a little over three years old.
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Looking back, I've realized that I accomplished one of my main goals, and that was to provide the audience with an understanding of what it takes to be a successful coach or an athlete.
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My guests have been incredibly open and honest about their experiences.
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They've taken us behind the curtain and share great stories from their careers.
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I thought I would put together a sampling of some of the great guests, who had tremendous stories and lessons they've learned as athletes and coaches.
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You can listen to the entire episode wherever you get your podcasts, and Season 2 will begin on May 8th.
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Welcome to the Athlete One podcast.
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Veteran high school baseball coach Ken Carpenter takes you into life's classroom as experienced through sports.
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Go behind the scenes with athletes and coaches as they share great stories, life lessons and ways to impact others.
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I have to start with my first episode with a good friend and someone who I coached with and against Chris Huseman and the great story he shared about being a player for legendary Audubon University head coach, dick Fishbaugh.
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We used to go to Panama City, florida, for our spring break trip and we would be, you know, bed check would be at a certain time, whatever it would be 11 o'clock and Fish, uh, come in and um, for whatever reason, this night he came in in his underwear and, um, very windy night there on the beach in panama city and his hair you know, he kind of had the donald trump hair, you know went off to the side there and it was flying all over.
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And you know, I look in the doorway and here's this man, heavy set man, and his underwear pulled up past his belly button and hair flying all over and I'm like I'm thinking my God, what in the world is this?
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And, uh, fish looked at me.
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Now you got to understand.
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Bed check was one of those things in division three college that you know you pretty much.
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You would, you would sneak out a lot and, uh, being on the beach and everything else, all my roommates snuck out.
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And I was the only one in their room check and I remember Fish looked at me and said hey, Hirsch, you got them all there, you got everybody.
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And then they're looking in the same room I am and I turned to him and I said yeah, fish, we're all here.
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And he nodded, his head and his underwear and his hair flying everywhere, and said okay, we'll see you at seven o'clock at McDonald's we're.
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you know I'm gonna get $7, $7.
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That's all you got at McDonald's.
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And I said I'm just, this is all new to me.
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You know this whole Division III thing.
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And meanwhile my roommates are out on the beach somewhere, you know, chasing girls or whatever.
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You never know how an interview is going to go, but this amazing story about a Little League baseball coach, league baseball coach bud ritchie, and the huge impact he had on the life of n-a-i-a national champion georgia guinette college head baseball coach, jeremy sheetinger, and he drafts me.
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This is a true story.
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Um, man, this is, this is this is gonna hit me.
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So, uh, he calls me and says hey, jeremy, I just want to let you know that I drafted you.
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And uh, the reason I drafted you this is gonna hit me.
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So, uh, he calls me and says hey, jeremy, I just want to let you know that I drafted you.
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And uh, the reason I drafted you this is oh, man, I you're, you really are gonna make me, uh, shed one here.
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He calls me.
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I'm, I remember standing in my kitchen and butter ritchie calls me and my mom answers the phone and she says hey, it's coach ritchieie.
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Hey, jeremy, hey, coach Richie.
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Hey, I just want to let you know we got practice tomorrow night.
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I drafted you for this team because I think you are the hidden gem inside the Frankfort Little League system.
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And I said, coach, what's that mean?
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He goes.
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I've watched you play since you were seven, eight years old.
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You've always been putting right field, they finding a bat for you here or there.
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I know you love basketball.
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He goes, but I'm telling you, son, you are a baseball player and you don't know it yet.
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And I just I'm like looking at my mom like who is like what is going on?
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And he goes, just just get to practice.
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This is, I can't make this up.
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This is, this is a book.
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So I hang up the phone.
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I'm jazzed out of my mind, I'm fired up from practice.
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Can we get out of school?
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My mom takes me to practice On our way home.
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We're pulling into Tereralanda and we can see fire truck lights right over the hill and we turn down my street.
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My house is on fire.
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So, to make the story even deeper, my parents had divorced.
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My mom was working a lot and a lot of times was.
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I was literally myself unlocking the door, playing basketball, running in fixing my own dinner, start my own laundry, put myself to bed at nine o'clock and set my alarm to get up at 6 30 to get ready and go to school.
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Doing that all of my own.
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It from nine years old through 12, 13 years old.
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That's why my wife gets upset when I only do my laundry.
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I'm so used to doing my own stuff.
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That's baked into me.
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The fire started at 9.15.
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I would have been laying in bed hanging out by myself and the house would have been on fire.
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So baseball practice saved my life.
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Winning your first state championship as a coach is special For Chris Casmar Walsh, jesuit baseball head coach.
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He relives the extra inning win for his first state championship and little did he know he was going to go on to have one of the most storied careers in the history of Ohio high school baseball.
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I remember that day, coach, literally like it was still yesterday.
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I can't believe, you know, two decades over two decades now have transpired since we won that game.
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It was an amazing game, extra inning game uh, I still remember, uh, us at that final moment in the ninth inning, when we scored that winning run, uh, you know, it was one of those moments where, you know, it literally happened to me everything slowed down.
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It was almost like I remember it all happening in slow motion, uh, and the thing I remember most vividly, coach and I I laugh about this with my assistants is that, uh, I jumped so high in the air in elation that, as I was at the peak of the height of my jump, I I remember looking down at the ground and, honestly, I had a thought that quickly went through my head, thinking to myself I can't believe I just jumped that high and then from there, when I landed, I proceeded to high step across the field like I just scored a touchdown and hugged my assistant coach.
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But it's a special, special moment to make it, to state, to be able to experience that.
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It's a special moment, of course, to win the championship.
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But all coaches that are as invested and put in the time like they do.
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I wish that everyone could feel a moment like that winning a championship.
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Imagine getting the call to go to the major leagues.
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Tim Dillard recounts his experience with the Milwaukee Brewers and the hectic day and his first appearance in a major league baseball stadium.
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I was playing for the Nashville Sounds and we were about to take a bus trip to go to Memphis about three hours and luckily I had a cell phone.
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This was 2008.
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I hadn't had a cell phone long.
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I said like a little flip, but hello, and anyway I was already up getting my stuff ready because we were going to leave out early.
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It was probably 5.30 or 6-ish and yeah, I get a call from my AAA manager.
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He's like what are you doing?
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I'm like, uh, just woke up trying to get my stuff together, about to make it to the bus.
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What's going on?
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He goes okay.
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He's like, hurry and come to the field, get your stuff and then go to the airport.
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You have a flight.
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You're flying to Washington DC, uh, to meet with the big league team, and I was like I getting called to the big leagues and uh, and she was a fleet.
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So she, she decided us.
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You know that's nice honey, like when the whack out, you know, uh.
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So yeah, I went grab my stuff and we both went to the airport and I flew to Washington DC on Memorial day weekend.
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So, um, to pay for her a flight was like a thousand dollars to get a plane ticket, like last minute to go, and we didn't have a thousand dollars but my visa credit card, though, it had a thousand dollars on it.
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So, yeah, we had to get a plane ticket for her.
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Got to Washington DC and she got in a cab, went straight to the hotel.
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I got in a cab, went straight to the field and the cab driver I was wearing a suit too, you know, because if you're going to get called the big leagues, you right, you got to wear a suit.
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So, you know, I had a I don't know where I got the suit from, piece it together from like a bargain hunt.
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But I, yeah, I get to, I get to the field and and, uh, the, the cab drop, uh cab driver drops me off, and and, uh, I, I realized that he, he dropped me off on the wrong side of the whole stadium.
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So I had to weasel my way into the stadium because I had no credentials, like now that I think they kind of give you like a, like a pass or something, I don't know.
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Uh, but I didn't have anything.
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So I just weaseled my way in and I'm down underneath the concourse, like in the little city that's under those stadiums, and, uh, that was a brand new stadium to billion dollar stadium for the national.
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So it's, it's massive.
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And here I am just sweating through my suit in may and I mean I'm just I got this big old bag on my shoulder and and, uh, by the time I got to the clubhouse, you know everybody was coming in for batting practice.
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So I changed real fast, go out, play catch with the bullpen catcher, come back in.
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It's immediately time to go back out.
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So I just basically changed my jersey into my game Jersey, went back out, made the Anthem, go to the bullpen.
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I sit there and I finally have a moment where I can just kind of like cool and phone rings it's like the fifth inning or whatever and they're like get dillard going.
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So I get up, start throwing and then they call down dillard's in the game.
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So all of a sudden I'm like this is unbelievable, 42 000 fans there.
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I just they open the gate and I'm thinking don't trip.
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Oh yeah, that's what.
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I did not trip.
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But I just was like I did.
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I was thinking don't trip.
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Left right, left right, get left right, get to the mound.
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I have no idea what happened, I know.
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Later on I struck out Aaron Boone.
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I didn't know that at the time he went on to have a good career.
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He's managing the New York Yankees, not too bad, not too shabby.
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I'm sure he remembers getting punched out by me.
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But yeah, I think I got I don't even know maybe a ground ball, a pop fly, I have no idea what happened um, but anyway got off the field and I mean I my whole goal in that moment.
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You know, I don't really do long-term goals really.
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I guess I just I wanted in the moment to make it look like I'd done it before.
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The last thing I want to do is look out, you know, be out there, and all the other hitters on the other team are going oh dude, let's get to's, get to this guy.
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This is his first time pitching, this is his debut.
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Look at this guy.
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He's scared to death, has no idea what he's doing, you know.
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So I just wanted to make it look like I knew what I was doing.
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And anyway, jason Kendall was my catcher, which is really funny because he came out to the mound.
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I mean, he's got 16 years in the spring training, I don't know.
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Hey, man, I got a couple cards I need you to sign, but uh, but kendall was awesome.
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He came out and you know, I mean I don't even know what the score was, it didn't matter, you know.
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And he's real laid back and he's like all right, what do you got?
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And I'm like one three wiggle, he goes all right, what do you want to do?
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The mail on second.
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I was like you know, first, sign, shake first.
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And he's like, okay, he's like all right, let's go.
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I was like yeah, let's do this like a real, like a real aggressive, like let's do this.
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And he kind of took a double take like what is that?
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Like defending the world series, bud?
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But like for me, maybe it was, I don't know, oh yeah.
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So he was back there catching my warm-up pitches and like kind of talking to the umpire and the umpire is kind of laughing and he's like pointing at me and then laughing and I'm like he's he's making a joke of me.
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But after the game we're done.
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Uh, head back to the team hotel and I'm walking through the lobby and jason kendall was in like the hotel restaurant area, and he sees me through the window like runs out there, grabs, he says, come on, I'm gonna buy you a beer.
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So we sit down.
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He buys me a beer and he goes man, tell you what.
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You went out there today and it looked like you had done it before and you knew what you were doing and I thought that's like the ultimate compliment, right.
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So it really came full circle.
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I mean just me being a catcher but then eventually going to pitching and then just kind of having that debut and having this, you know this bettering catcher.
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Um, I don't know.
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I'm saying nice things, it was a good day, it was a hard day.
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I don't think I ever worked.
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That suit was completely soaked 600-game winner George Powell at Audubon University talks about the role of parents and how his dad had a huge role in his success as a player and a coach.
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My dad just little things in the game.
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He was a guy that taught me how to handle things and when I didn't handle things he didn't let me off the hook.
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I think that's the problem today sometimes with parenting when parents get involved, I think, the negative side of it.
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I think parents' involvement is fine as long as they let the kids experience their experiences and not try to force the experience and within those experiences there's going to be negative outcomes, which is growth.
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So you want that, but sometimes parents don't.
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But my dad was just so influential in sports he thought athletics was a mechanism that will teach you about life.
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So whether I played growing up, football, basketball, baseball, I did high school at Westfield North a long time ago but his attitude was just that the athletics teaches you about life.
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So and he made a big point in that and especially when we had tough losses as little kids and when I would cry when we'd lose, because I hated losing as a little kid and you know you would say that's, that's part of this, that's, those are good things that happen.
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And little things in baseball that I still, you know, teach here and talk about all the time is.
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And I'm happy now cause we're, we're.
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We've been real successful this year as our two strike approach.
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My dad baseball wise was just was just a big guy choking up moving to baseball, and that was always something that stuck with me, even though I would be, you know, growing up in my high school and college career.
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I'd be a middle lineup guy, but it was always important for me to move to baseball.
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Hall of Fame high school head baseball coach Phil Callahan, who had 200 wins at three different schools, talks about giving 100% effort.
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And I said to him you're going on to Taylor University.
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Now I got news for you you are going to see great players at Taylor and you're also going to see a culture that makes healthy choices.
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I said how are you going to compete?
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He goes oh, I'm kind of worried about that myself, and we talked about it.
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I said here's a simple way I go.
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When you hit the baseball, can you run as fast as you can?
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Well, yeah, yeah, can you do it every time?
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Yeah, yeah, I go, then do it.
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Why didn't you do it in high school?
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Well, I mean a lot of times, and it doesn't matter if it's 2023 or if it's 1991, we can all do things to the best of our ability.
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We just got to make a choice that it's going to happen.
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So, maybe one of the most positive things of this year.
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I turned on the TV last night and was watching the regionals and watching Kentucky against Indiana, and I saw six ground balls in the 15 minutes and every single guy ran down to first as hard as they could and three of those were to second base.
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And you know, at the high school level now, whether it's the pandemic or the phones, I would say ground balls to second base maybe get ran out one out of six, zero out of six times, and that is something that every single person can control.
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We can't control how much talent we have, but we can control how much effort we give.
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Coronado High School football coach, Kurt Hines, on players having passion and love for the game and how he was supportive and happy when a player quit his team.
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Listen before you judge, yeah so absolutely love that.
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So I had.
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He and his older brother played for us.
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His brother was a stud, showed up early, a light of life, smiling all the time, just a great football player, a great human being.
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The younger brother and you're behind him.
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If he showed up on time, we were lucky.
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You know, he was showing up late and never seemed to be happy.
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And we we have a sticker on the back of our helmet just says the word.
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It's a little circular sticker.
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Just says the word why all capital letters?
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Why and I talk about all the time like why are you the man you are?
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Why are you the man you are?
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Why are you the woman you are?
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What gets you out of bed in the morning?
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Why do you choose to study for your test and not just flunk out, whatever it is?
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And I think our Y drives us in all we do.
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And I always tell our players football's not for everyone, it's a tough sport.
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But if you choose to walk away, don't lie to yourself and say I want to focus on my grades, because no one goes home at three o'clock and does homework from three to ten.
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You're going to play video games.
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You're going to watch TV.
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You're going to be scrolling on your phone, whatever it is.
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But you know, come to me and shake my hand and look me in the eye and return all your gear and say, coach, my heart's just not in it and I'll never question you and I'll always love and respect you.
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So the younger brother, the older brother, graduated and, uh, the younger brother came to one practice with his bag and he looked so scared and so apprehensive.
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And I yell and scream all the time on the football field it's never derogatory.
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We have no swearing policy.
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Kids can't swear, coaches can't swear.
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Um, there are consequences in players.
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All coaches do um, nothing big, just 25 push-ups and then, if it becomes a habit, then other consequences.
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But he came into the office and it was about 10 minutes before practice and I said hey, sit down for a minute.
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I said just talk to him.
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Why are you going?
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He goes.
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Well, I just don't love it.
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I said thank you.
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He said I appreciate the honesty Talk bit more because I wanted to get to the why not just the blanket statement if I don't want it?
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And he's starting to say he goes.
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Coach, my brother loves football, english.
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You know that my dad loves football, my mom loves football because we're a football family.
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And you just saw him when he said we're a football family.